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The Rhythms of Our Lives

Today, a lot of us, men and women, are not quite sure of what we really want in many situations, and then we end up with the magic word: “I’ll just go with the flow.” As I thought about the reasons why we tend to go with someone else’s flow, I wondered: Does this relate to insecurity, fear of rejection, or is this life flow or life rhythm only connected to women?

In a relationship, men are best known to “go with the flow of things” before thinking about engagements. Sometimes if a girl wants to be “friends only” they will go with this flow. Women on the other hand, put much more effort into trying to figure things out and understand what’s going on.  Women tend to go with the flow with everything else in life. We pay more attention to the seasons, the sun, the moon, the temperature, the melody of flowers in the wind; to see the beauty of the unseen. We feel the tugs and pull the urges of life,men usually pull and resist to these changes.

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Women know when it’s time to rest and time to work; time to cry and time to laugh, time to hold and time to let go. I did not need to read The Power of Womanhood or The Fascinating Girl to know that women live their whole lives by rhythms because we are in rhythm with life ourselves. We tend to get affected by daily cycles that guide our energy and moods, which is why we tend to view things more positively.

Women tend to take care of their bodies much more carefully than men. The way we treat our bodies is the same way we treat life, we want health and balance. Of course there are some exceptions to every rule. These are the broadest terms, but if we look at life and admit what you we are seeing, if we could only acknowledge what is so, we might find truth in this generality.

The yin and the yang are considered parts of the magnificent natural rhythms of life. These aspects are simply wonderfully that: aspects. Yet it has been said that being a man is your testing ground, your probation. In a passage from Conversations With God book 2, Neal Donald Walsh said that when you have been a man long enough, and you have suffered enough through your own childishness; when you have hurt others enough to stop your own actions and replace hate with compassion, anger with reason, always winning with no one, but losing, you may become a woman.

Once men have learned that might is not “right”; that strength is not power over but power with; that total power demands of others absolutely nothing; when you understand these things, then you may deserve to wear a woman’s body for you will at last have understood her Essence.

 


			

I don’t understand….

I don’t understand why being the world so full of all, lacks so many things.

I don’t  understand how come if love is free, we are all prisoners of love.

I don’t understand how some people, having so much wealth and food, with their unhappiness are hungry and lack love and warmth.

I don’t understand, while some seem to mourn for joy it’s actually a big pain, and how do we know if he did not really laugh? He may hide a great sorrow that fills his heart.

I don’t understand how a blind man can see beyond achieving a healthy person’s view.

I don’t understand how people who lack intelligence and mental agility, maybe  can love you more than many college graduates; who put everything right, but  do not know how to listen to the heart.

I don’t understand how a person in silence maybe  can love and say more than one that fills you with words to prove it.

I can’t understand how a cripple who cannot walk, can through his dreams fly, while those who can run the first trip cannot achieve their goals. And what about the real friend who makes you cry, unlike the one that makes you laugh with his falsehood.

I hope you all like it. Feel free to add more ironies that I don’t understand.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Qualities Of A Good Husband

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So I was thinking about one of the biggest challenges most young women face around the world, how to find a good husband. I also realized that most young women around the world do not get enough advice on this important topic, yes, important. Even though most people, men and women do eventually get married, it is unfortunate that most men and women end up with less than ideal partners. Fact is,most men in third world countries are not worth marrying. There may be a few months of bliss, but after that, chances are a woman will be reduced to the position of a man’s work slave.

So why not consider a good husband the one who thinks about you but does NOT love you? It is almost impossible to love a person and think about that person at the same time. Isn’t that the nature of men? I know you may think this is outrageous, but it is the reality we wouldn’t want to admit because its the truth. We never spend time thinking about what is best, whether to be loved , or someone who constantly think about us, cares, and makes sure we are okay. Ever wondered why can a man have several wives and mistresses at the same time? We often wonder how polygamous men are able to distribute love equally to their wives and manage so well.

These marvelous men for sure do not love any of their women, but they always think about them. I think that is the essence of a good husband. He would not marry a woman as result of love, but as a social obligation that should be fulfilled. Somehow women like to feel a bit dominated by their men, specially Latin women, for cultural reasons. Back in the days, men were the ones  supporting our mothers. Therefore, does this imply that the best husband should be a man who is in control? He definitely has to take control of his life, his woman and his family. In other words, he is a decision maker. The best husband supports his family in terms of emotional well-being. He should be able to create a sense of comfort zone around his family. His presence should create a sense of security for his wife and children. He is a thinker, he sees opportunities where none seem to exist but most importantly…he’s gentle, honest, and caring.

Judging by Outward Appearances Vs Inner Qualities

 

1289f61“Never judge a book by it’s cover.” This is an oft-quoted phrase coined to remind us that outward appearances can be deceiving. I am sure that there are people who do, but l find that reading the synopsis is a better indication of value. Don’t get me wrong, a good cover can help a lousy book just like a lousy cover can kill a great book. Years ago, I met this girl who always had this mean look in her face, so mean, I was intimidated and judged her to be unfriendly and not a nice person.

Years later, I found out the girl I judged as unfriendly and mean was actually a Christian, kind-hearted, and compassionate towards elderly people. On the other hand, how can we forget that all that shines is not glitter? I have also met people who smile, are nice to your face, but talk bad about you when you are not around to hear. It’s part of the human nature not to be perfect, and that is perfectly fine. I have learned that just because someone does not act or look like we think they should, we have to assume the worst about them. Instead, we should try to find their inner qualities like compassion, truthfulness, tolerance or even love.

When I give it a deeper thought, I realize most of us ignore the importance of these qualities because we don’t take our time to build valuable relationships and discover both positive and negative emotions we all posses within each other. In order to love and learn from others, we have to love ourselves, then we’ll have the ability to see one another’s soul and see beyond the physical body.

Lastly, compassion, tolerance, and love towards each other is an essecial part of the process. Love is what will make our life complete and will create strong bonds between family and friends. If we could only practice this qualities within us, chances are, we’ll have a better world and we’ll be known as exceptional human beings wherever we go. Life is not perfect, but we can make it perfect and be happy if we decide it.

Change

thCAUOA3JRIf you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Maya Angelou.

I admit it, I’m a rich soul trapped in a poor woman’s body. I like good and beautiful things, routine bores me and curiosity kills me. Very often I feel the need to learn something new (places, people, employment) something different from what I’ve already learned, motivation to help me continue to use my time doing something productive and exciting. If we seek changes in our lives we can’t expect them to arrive by magic, getting comfortable and complaining about our bad luck. By doing that we’ll be staying on the same spot and will spend many years until our  strength and desire to dream is all gone. We must put action now, change what makes us feel stuck, bored or sad, and replace it with new and positive people who make us happy. These changes will lead to new ideas and will encourage us to make changes in our lives. 

Favorite Golden Lessons from Steve Jobs

“Your time is limited,29c3879 so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

“You know, we don’t grow most of the food we eat. We wear clothes other people make. We speak a language that other people developed. We use a mathematics that other people evolved… I mean, we’re constantly taking things. It’s a wonderful, ecstatic feeling to create something that puts it back in the pool of human experience and knowledge.”

“I would trade all of my technology for an afternoon with Socrates.”

“Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.”

Plato the Meno-Can Virtue be Taught?

Before reading Plato’s Meno dialogue, I never thought of asking myself whether virtue can be learned or taught. I find this to be one of the most extraordinary yet controversial conversations of all times. In this article Plato provided examples through the voice of character Socrates, concluding that virtue cannot be taught and is a talent given by the Gods. The problem I see in this question is that for virtue to be taught, it would require a teacher and a student, but how can a teacher teach virtue? Instead, I think virtue can just be learned through life experiences and this only requires the student, not a teacher, therefore I think that virtue can just be learned, not taught. A teacher cannot prepare a lesson called “Virtue 101” but students can pick up information from their surroundings, backgrounds, and life experiences and learn how to be virtuous.

According to Plato, virtue cannot be learned. He claimed that virtue is acquired from the Gods. To some extent, I guess this can be true. Some people are born with many virtuous capacities such as compassion, loyalty, generosity and more. This does not mean that it cannot be learned. People are not born knowing the meaning of these virtues; instead, they learn it through experiences. At birth, we do not know what’s right or wrong, but throughout our life journey we may experience dishonesty from a loved one, then we may feel guilt or shame due to the other person’s betrayal, and that’s when we learn this is not right. Loyalty is another example that virtue is learned rather than innate. Loyalty consists on dedication to a person or place. When we are born, we are dedicated to our mothers because we rely on our mothers for survival; however, this does not mean loyalty is innate. Babies develop loyalty because of the time spent with their mothers and because mothers provide nurturing.

In conclusion, I think virtue can be learned, evolved or innate but cannot be taught. We evolve when we find out whether what we or others have done benefits us. We have innate knowledge of what is good or bad when we confront a situation and we follow our hearts to make a decision.  What if someone wants to be taught to be virtuous for the reason that he has not being able to experience virtue? I think maybe this person can be taught how to act, in order to develop skills or build experiences in order to be virtuous. In summary, virtue is knowledge of what is right or wrong and the capability to distinguish right from wrong ensuring the act leans towards what is right.

Virtue cannot be taught but we can encourage people to seek virtue. In order to encourage someone to seek virtue, they must be taught to act right, and to acknowledge separating those acts from negative acts. I think this is the only way that we can persuade someone to seek virtue. If Plato would have worded the question differently, it may have given him a different answer. Instead of asking whether virtue can be taught, he should have done it better by asking: Can virtue be learned?