I don’t understand why being the world so full of all, lacks so many things.
I don’t understand how come if love is free, we are all prisoners of love.
I don’t understand how some people, having so much wealth and food, with their unhappiness are hungry and lack love and warmth.
I don’t understand, while some seem to mourn for joy it’s actually a big pain, and how do we know if he did not really laugh? He may hide a great sorrow that fills his heart.
I don’t understand how a blind man can see beyond achieving a healthy person’s view.
I don’t understand how people who lack intelligence and mental agility, maybe can love you more than many college graduates; who put everything right, but do not know how to listen to the heart.
I don’t understand how a person in silence maybe can love and say more than one that fills you with words to prove it.
I can’t understand how a cripple who cannot walk, can through his dreams fly, while those who can run the first trip cannot achieve their goals. And what about the real friend who makes you cry, unlike the one that makes you laugh with his falsehood.
I hope you all like it. Feel free to add more ironies that I don’t understand.
So I was thinking about one of the biggest challenges most young women face around the world, how to find a good husband. I also realized that most young women around the world do not get enough advice on this important topic, yes, important. Even though most people, men and women do eventually get married, it is unfortunate that most men and women end up with less than ideal partners. Fact is,most men in third world countries are not worth marrying. There may be a few months of bliss, but after that, chances are a woman will be reduced to the position of a man’s work slave.
So why not consider a good husband the one who thinks about you but does NOT love you? It is almost impossible to love a person and think about that person at the same time. Isn’t that the nature of men? I know you may think this is outrageous, but it is the reality we wouldn’t want to admit because its the truth. We never spend time thinking about what is best, whether to be loved , or someone who constantly think about us, cares, and makes sure we are okay. Ever wondered why can a man have several wives and mistresses at the same time? We often wonder how polygamous men are able to distribute love equally to their wives and manage so well.
These marvelous men for sure do not love any of their women, but they always think about them. I think that is the essence of a good husband. He would not marry a woman as result of love, but as a social obligation that should be fulfilled. Somehow women like to feel a bit dominated by their men, specially Latin women, for cultural reasons. Back in the days, men were the ones supporting our mothers. Therefore, does this imply that the best husband should be a man who is in control? He definitely has to take control of his life, his woman and his family. In other words, he is a decision maker. The best husband supports his family in terms of emotional well-being. He should be able to create a sense of comfort zone around his family. His presence should create a sense of security for his wife and children. He is a thinker, he sees opportunities where none seem to exist but most importantly…he’s gentle, honest, and caring.
I have always wondered why I crave so much for horror movies. Ever since I was a young and innocent little girl, I tended to get scared of any unusual noise or other simple activities such as listening to scary tales and stories told in the neighborhood. Some of these stories, according to my friends, were not even scary. To me they were. In my hometown, back in the Dominican Republic, my parents said they heard a singing voice in front of the house, by a tree.
The singing voice belonged to a female, and the voice sang “I want to go to heaven” and repeated this phrase over and over. I never heard anything, but just the fact that everyone was talking about it frightened me. Once I grew up and became an adult, I realized how much I enjoy horror movies, although they still scare me. When I opt for a horror movie, I know I will be scared from the very beginning, but that’s one of the best feelings I get to enjoy. Consequently, it brings me childhood memories; when I used to sit, watch, and then cover my face. I would not want to look, but then I finally did. I heard some girl’s distorted voice telling me to look, and I felt like if I was watching a real-life story. Today, once a horror movie is over, I get up from the seat and all my fears and emotions felt during the film just vanish.
Being fascinated with horror movies in particular makes me believe that we all have a shadow on our souls that we may reject or deny, but it is there. Therefore, we are drawn to stories that put us in touch with that missing link within our own personalities. I don’t mean to say we are crazy, or serial killers, simply that at times, we would like to have that kind of power. And so, like every audience, we are intrigued by fiction or anything that will release our emotions.
“Never judge a book by it’s cover.” This is an oft-quoted phrase coined to remind us that outward appearances can be deceiving. I am sure that there are people who do, but l find that reading the synopsis is a better indication of value. Don’t get me wrong, a good cover can help a lousy book just like a lousy cover can kill a great book. Years ago, I met this girl who always had this mean look in her face, so mean, I was intimidated and judged her to be unfriendly and not a nice person.
Years later, I found out the girl I judged as unfriendly and mean was actually a Christian, kind-hearted, and compassionate towards elderly people. On the other hand, how can we forget that all that shines is not glitter? I have also met people who smile, are nice to your face, but talk bad about you when you are not around to hear. It’s part of the human nature not to be perfect, and that is perfectly fine. I have learned that just because someone does not act or look like we think they should, we have to assume the worst about them. Instead, we should try to find their inner qualities like compassion, truthfulness, tolerance or even love.
When I give it a deeper thought, I realize most of us ignore the importance of these qualities because we don’t take our time to build valuable relationships and discover both positive and negative emotions we all posses within each other. In order to love and learn from others, we have to love ourselves, then we’ll have the ability to see one another’s soul and see beyond the physical body.
Lastly, compassion, tolerance, and love towards each other is an essecial part of the process. Love is what will make our life complete and will create strong bonds between family and friends. If we could only practice this qualities within us, chances are, we’ll have a better world and we’ll be known as exceptional human beings wherever we go. Life is not perfect, but we can make it perfect and be happy if we decide it.
Regardless of our “bad experiences” getting married is every woman’s dream. In spite of repeating in our heads that marriage no longer exists, we still dream about marrying a special someone. Today, most girls say there are no men like back in the days; those who romantically conquered women to make them their wives. However, despite all these thoughts we all want to experience that special day, the day we wear that beautiful wedding gown that will make us look like a princess beside our prince. Today I want to say that if you are one of those lucky girls about to realize your dream, it’s time to start thinking about that fabulous wedding dress. Getting the right dress is quite challenging because you will wear it only once, this is your dream, to be a princess for a day.
Today I want you to meet Lucia Rodriguez, sister, and talented fashion designer specializing in custom wedding dresses. At a very young age, Lucia started her passion for fashion modeling. Native from Bonao, Dominican Republic, she was only 14 years old when she began her fashion studies in our native country. Upon complexion of her studies and graduation, she migrated to the United States in order to pursue her dreams within the fashion industry and modeling world. I am writing about her not only because she is my sister, but because many women like you are saying it, they have been princesses for a day, wearing a gorgeous customized dress designed by Lucia. I don’t have to write much in my own words, but if I finally made you curious please feel free to visit her website to find out more about her story and amazing line, or better yet, to book an appointment at her New York City location and meet her in person. Lucia Rodriguez NYC also on Facebook and Twitter.