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Qualities Of A Good Husband


So I was thinking about one of the biggest challenges most young women face around the world, how to find a good husband. I also realized that most young women around the world do not get enough advice on this important topic, yes, important. Even though most people, men and women do eventually get married, it is unfortunate that most men and women end up with less than ideal partners. Fact is,most men in third world countries are not worth marrying. There may be a few months of bliss, but after that, chances are a woman will be reduced to the position of a man’s work slave.

So why not consider a good husband the one who thinks about you but does NOT love you? It is almost impossible to love a person and think about that person at the same time. Isn’t that the nature of men? I know you may think this is outrageous, but it is the reality we wouldn’t want to admit because its the truth. We never spend time thinking about what is best, whether to be loved , or someone who constantly think about us, cares, and makes sure we are okay. Ever wondered why can a man have several wives and mistresses at the same time? We often wonder how polygamous men are able to distribute love equally to their wives and manage so well.

These marvelous men for sure do not love any of their women, but they always think about them. I think that is the essence of a good husband. He would not marry a woman as result of love, but as a social obligation that should be fulfilled. Somehow women like to feel a bit dominated by their men, specially Latin women, for cultural reasons. Back in the days, men were the ones  supporting our mothers. Therefore, does this imply that the best husband should be a man who is in control? He definitely has to take control of his life, his woman and his family. In other words, he is a decision maker. The best husband supports his family in terms of emotional well-being. He should be able to create a sense of comfort zone around his family. His presence should create a sense of security for his wife and children. He is a thinker, he sees opportunities where none seem to exist but most importantly…he’s gentle, honest, and caring.

My Fascination with Horror Movies

 I have always wondered why I crave so much for horror movies. Ever since I was a young and innocent little girl, I tended to get scared of any unusual noise or other simple activities such as listening to scary tales and stories told in the neighborhood. Some of these stories, according to my friends, were not even scary. To me they were. In my hometown, back in the Dominican Republic, my parents said they heard a singing voice in front of the house, by a tree.


The singing voice belonged to a female, and the voice sang “I want to go to heaven” and repeated this phrase over and over. I never heard anything, but just the fact that everyone was talking about it frightened me. Once I grew up and became an adult, I realized how much I enjoy horror movies, although they still scare me. When I opt for a horror movie, I know I will be scared from the very beginning, but that’s one of the best feelings I get to enjoy. Consequently, it brings me childhood memories; when I used to sit, watch, and then cover my face. I would not want to look, but then I finally did. I heard some girl’s distorted voice telling me to look, and I felt like if I was watching a real-life story. Today, once a horror movie is over, I get up from the seat and all my fears and emotions felt during the film just vanish.

Being fascinated with horror movies in particular makes me believe that we all have a shadow on our souls that we may reject or deny, but it is there. Therefore, we are drawn to stories that put us in touch with that missing link within our own personalities. I don’t mean to say we are crazy, or serial killers, simply that at times, we would like to have that kind of power. And so, like every audience, we are intrigued by fiction or anything that will release our emotions.